Firstly, when emotions are high, consider using a personal journal to process those feelings.
Maybe you weren’t a sensitive young girl who once upon a time wrote in her little diary about how rejected she felt when Johnny didn’t ask her out. Then she locked it with that little key, hid it under the mattress, and she carried on anyway. 💃🏻
But hey, same principle! Whether old school pen and paper or online digital journaling (like 750 Words which I adore and faithfully use), spew forth those negative or squirrely thoughts in private. 📕
It’s a relief just to say them and get them out of your head, right? This allows your irrational impulses to join the party and be acknowledged.
Then, process the situation unemotionally. Think of all the times you spoke before thinking, and in hindsight, you had second thoughts or more useful conclusions. Too late now, eh? This is the power of the pause. 😎
Secondly, figure out why you want to share your situation or outlook.
What action or perspective do you want your readers to take? Feeling compelled to vent is normal. It relieves frustration and that’s what friends are for—sometimes.
It just goes to another level when we broadcast it into the ether, going above and beyond our closest friends. How many people need to hear you gripe and moan so you can feel whole again? 🤔
How would you feel about developing a reputation for finding fault, complaining, or mounting a soapbox? Your dearest friends may not see you this way (unless it’s true 🙄) but what about those that you rarely if never meet up with? That could happen and who needs evidence of your misery in the world?
Thirdly, what value are you imparting to those receiving your words?
A vent can be turned into a useful post (look at what I’m doing here!💡)
For example, if you want to change someone’s mind, then there’s likely a lesson learned or a new way of dealing with a problem that you can provide.
Or maybe it’s about lightening up with the issue, and so you share a few laughs and jibes. You choose what your objective will be.
Ultimately, not taking every little thing too seriously is an invaluable life skill, don’t you think? 🤗