Our families gather from near and far when the holidays arrive!
Most would agree that seeing our loved ones gathered in real life is the highlight of the season. Sure, there can be some mini-dramas here and there…all part of the deal!
It’s not often that everyone convenes, due to hectic schedules and scattered home bases. So while you’re all together, initiate the conversation about what things of yours they have always admired.
Parents often assume their kids have the same regard for family heirlooms or mementos but it’s not true. Tastes vary and so does the capacity to incorporate large furniture or collectibles into a new household.
Here’s a short of what they likely don’t want: Top 10 Objects Kids Don’t Want!
Or check out this iconic article from The New York Times: Aging Parents With Lots of Stuff & Children Who Don’t Want It.
Instead of making assumptions about who wants what, just ask! It will help your distribution process when you start paring down in earnest.
And if more than one of your kids wants dibs on an item, now’s the time to know.
There are a few ways to resolve this, whether drawing straws, or making concessions on one item in return for another. It doesn’t have to be finalized now. But it’s good intel for future reference.
Above all, don’t take it personally when they feel differently about your stuff.
We each have the right to decide what enters our own homes. And no one welcomes guilt at the door, don’t you agree?